Letting Go

"As he held my neck with both of his strong hands and was trying to choke my life away, I calmed myself and told my ex-husband, 'It's time to just let go.' His face lost its fury and his hands lost their grip. The hate and bloodthirst in his eyes were immediately replaced with tears and shame. Then he just let go."

The most deadly and elusive parasites known to mankind are those that we can't see and which eat us from the inside out. The third leg to this trilogy of harmful parasitic characteristics is that these monsters are created by and within our own minds. Hate, jealousy, cynicism and other poisonous cousins are created by us, nurtured by us, fed by us and acted on by us. While the better part of valor and the belly of good sense scream that we should just let go, we tighten our grip on our tormentors as if our own blood supply is dependent upon the survival of these self-destructive mental concoctions. A wise woman once said, "As we navigate life's sometimes choppy waters, we cannot control the direction or strength of the of the magnificent wind, we can only control the position of our sails." The challenge of our lives is whether we have the courage to let go and whether we love ourselves enough to let go of the things that are simply not good for us.

Death is Overrated

The transition from life to the afterlife to be an amazing phenomenon. We go from self-important, egocentric, death fearing life clingers to pure spirit. Death itself is shorter than a millisecond. Yet it holds many of us hostage from really enjoying our lives. The fact is that although we were real and meaningful in life, death converts us to a mere memory...a small place in the hearts of a few.