Fools or Realists in a Dominican Paradigm

The Essence article described Black men flocking to the DR for cheap sex and the illusion of feeling like a man. The article quoted men who informed Black women that they need to learn from the Dominican sistas as to how to treat a man like a man. The flip side reflected a stringent reminder that the men are consorting with prostitiutes whose aim is to separated them from their ten and twenty dollar bills in exchange for fantasy sex and the pretend royal treatment. Many brothas who have resorted to DR junkets say that the exchange and expectation of DR sistas and US sistas is the same: the man has to pay if he plans on getting what he wants. US sistas find this simplistic analysis appalling and insulting. "The brothas treat us like two bit whores which illuminates the problems," one US sista frustratedly explained. "What Black women want is a relationship and a relationship involves a certain amount of wining and dining. The man traditionally bears the brunt of that cost, but what we want is commitment, not just flash and finance," she explained. The brothas disagree.

"Whether you spend the money here with the US sista, or in the DR with those sistas, it's all leading to sex. These sistas know it and need to just be honest." The brotha was frustrated. Is the disconnect fatal to Black Love? Who needs a reality check? Candor is the only kindness.